Finding out what's wrong with Tall Guy

After the fabulous first date with Tall Guy I went out with a couple other people before heading off to Iowa for some crazy fast family time. We had been in communication via email, but he felt distant and hadn't asked me out again. I mentally shrugged it off. Either a guy is into you, or not.

Even though I was stressed out from work and the fucked up travelling I had to do to get there (thanks United Airlines), I had a blast with my family. Iowa is this strange land where you can pretty much behave however you like, always feel dressed up, and can drink ungodly amounts of beer and still survive. I have renamed the state "Magic Drunken Land." Please make note in the future.

Late one night after consuming my weight in beer, without eating anything solid I can remember, I was texting the Tall Guy. He said he wanted to tell me why he was so reluctant to ask me out again. Uh-oh. I closed one eye so I could read my phone better. Using two made it move around all fuzzy. This was a good indicator I should probably go to bed. And I did. I could afford to put off whatever soul revealing thing this guy felt he should share with me.

The following evening I was even more intoxicated as I learned the truth about Tall Guy. "A wrench" in his ability to date me was that he was going to have a baby in 5 months. Seriously. I dropped my head down and sighed. Here was a nice guy, that I had a nice time with and had been excited to see a second time. Now, he was going to be a father and have all the ties of responsibility that entailed. Instead of texting back "Ok, see ya." I decided to be nice. I told him congradulations.

As I drank more, we texted more and he revealed that the baby's momma was his roommate. You know, the one he told me was not an issue AT ALL? Tall Guy said that they were never dating just got it on once in awhile. But even that much was over between them now. The last time they shacked up resulting in this. He was excited to be a dad.

Good for you, Tall Guy. Glad you are happy about fathering a child, but ummmm, why are you trying to date? His response was: He found out a couple of days before I contacted him, he was getting ready to delete his profile when he saw me and thought I was amazing. I know I shouldn't have fallen for that, but I totally did.

We texted all night, talked on the phone, joked and I had probably the best time ever with a guy in the past seven years. Laughing that hard was such a release. The only down side was the fact that I could, in all honesty, not forsee a future with this guy. He lives with his baby's momma, planning to keep that arrangement for at least the next year, and will have a screaming infant in a few months. How do you get romantic with that?

You don't. When I got back into town I had a long phone convo with the Tall Guy. I was straight honest with him about all of my concerns and reservations. I asked a thousand questions. Against my better judgement I agreed to go out with him again. For fun, I told myself...